Masithi ndiza kuqala ngokuthi ndandithandana nombala, kubhala uMaggie Nelson ekuvulekeni IiBluets, ubude bayo bencwadi-ode kumbala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka . Ngama-vignettes angamakhulu amabini, uNelson uhlola le nto, efaka imbali eluhlaza kunye nobomi bakhe ngelixa echaza i-blues eyahlukileyo kwiimvakalelo, kubantu nakumava. Ukufunda ubudlelwane bukaNelson kumbala yayilixesha lokuqala ndicinga nyani malunga nokuzala kwam ukuzingqonga nam pink epinki - ngokukodwa, umthunzi uninzi lunokubhekisa njenge-blush okanye ipinki yomntwana.
Abantwana banemibala abayithandayo, ngelixa abantu abadala, kubonakala ngathi kufanelekile ukuba bakhethe izinto okanye iimpahla ezisekwe kwixabiso lazo okanye ngendlela ehamba ngayo nokungathathi cala. Andizange ndikhule ngombala endiwuthandayo, kodwa eyam ililac. Ngomntwana opinki, ngakumbi ukuba ndifuna ukutshona ngaphakathi kule hue ngokungathi ibhafu enkulu, eshushu yokupeyinta ubisi. Ukuba bendinokukwenza oko, ngekhe ndiphinde ndizive ndonganyelwe, ndikhathazekile, okanye ndibuhlungu-ngokungathi zonke iingxaki zam zi-brown, orenji, kunye nemifuno engcolileyo. Umntwana opinki undihlamba yonke into.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso
Ityala: UMarianne Eloise
Ndingu-autistic, oko kuthetha izinto ezininzi, ezilungileyo nezimbi. Ndoyiswa lula kakhulu. Izandi, uburhabaxa, iimvakalelo, ivumba, izinto ozibonayo, izibane, kunye nemibala zinokubonwa njenge ingxolo ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba buhlungu. Yonke into kwindalo esingqongileyo iyahlangana ukuze yenze i-canvas yeemvakalelo, kwaye ngokuvakalayo nayiphi na into ekule ndawo, kokukhona ndiqala ukusondela kunyibiliko. Ukuba andikwazi ukulawula indlela endiziva ngayo, ndiphulukana namandla okuthetha kunye namandla okwenza umsebenzi wokuqonda. Ukuthintela oku, ndifuna izinto ezizolileyo, kokubini ngokoqobo nangokweminye imizwa yam, ukusuka kwizibane eziphantsi kunye neempahla ezithambileyo zomqhaphu ukuya kwimibala ye-pastel.
Ikhaya lam yeyona ndawo ikhuselekileyo, indawo endiyenzileyo ukuba ithi cwaka kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Icocekile, igcwele izinto endizifumanayo ziyapholisa, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, zininzi imibala umntwana opinki . Ifanitshala iyabiza, kodwa nantoni na endinokukwazi ukuyifumana njengepinki yomntwana yile: iivazi, ubugcisa, amakhandlela, iithoyi, iiggs, iimbiza zezityalo, iipleyiti, itowaster, imiqamelo, izigqubuthelo zedavet, iingubo, iincwadi. Njengokuba ndikhulile kwaye ndizuza iindlela zokwenza njalo, ndiye ndatyala imali kumacwecwe amakhulu apinki - iidrowa, izibane, idesika yam, isitulo seofisi yam - kwaye ezi ziqwenga zikhulu ziye zanika iindonga zam isamente epinki encinci. Akusiyo nje isigaba sepinki nokuba. Indawo epinki endijikelezileyo ifumana ukuthamba, yonke enye into ivakalelwa kum. Ndiqala ndigqibe usuku lwam kwindawo epinki kangangokuba yonke into ithi cwaka xa indijikelezile. Nokuba kufuneka ndichithe iiyure phakathi kwesandi esikhulu, ndiyazi ukuba indawo yam epinki indilindele ekhaya.
imiqondiso yeengelosi ezindijikelezileyoGcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso
Ityala: UMarianne Eloise
Okwexeshana, ngaphambi kokuba ndiqonde indlela ingqondo yam esebenza ngayo, bendicinga ukuba mhlawumbi ndinomzuzu omkhulu wepink. Abantu banokundincoma ngokulungelelanisa kwam ngokungathi kwenzeke ngengozi; iinzipho zam ezinde, ezimnyama ezipinki ze-acrylic zihambelana nomntwana wam opinki isiketi kunye nentombazana epinki i-Nike Air Max. Ngandlela thile, kunjalo wayenjalo inyanzelekile ukuba yenzeke, ngokokukhetha nayiphi na impahla yam kwakuthetha ukuba ndinethuba elinye kwamathathu okubamba into epinki kwasekuqaleni. Ngokukhawuleza xa abantu bengena ekhayeni lam okanye beyibona ngaphezulu kweefowuni zevidiyo, bayaphawula ukuba ingakanani ipinki ekhoyo, ngokungathi ayenzelwanga ngabom. Njengokuba bendiqala ukuqonda ngcono ubuchopho bam, ndiye ndabona ukuba umjikelo wento endiziva ngayo xa ndijonga umntwana opinki xa ethelekisa ukuthanda kwam eminye imibala akulula njengombala owuthandayo- yindlela yokujongana nehlabathi.
Ukuba ne-autistic kuhlala kuthetha ukuhlengahlengisa izinto ezibonakala zingenantlonelo phakathi kwento evakala ilungile kunye neziva imbi, kwaye oko kunokuba ngokwahlukileyo kuye wonke umntu one-autism. Kum, uboya buziva ulungile ngelixa umqhaphu ungenawo. Inyama inencasa embi; iitapile zilungile. UBrown uziva kakubi, kodwa umntwana opinki kakhulu, ulunge kakhulu. Izinto ziziva kwangoko zilungile okanye ziphosakele ngeendlela andisoloko ndinamandla okuthetha okanye ndikhombe, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba izinto ezingalunganga zihlala zindoyisa, ngelixa ezifanelekileyo zindinceda ndizive ndingumntu. Ukuphazamiseka endikuva kuncitshisiwe-kwenziwa kuncinci- zizinto ezilungileyo. Ngelixa ndiziva ngathi ndisisidenge, njengomntwana oxakekileyo, ndiyazi ukuba olu khetho lwenza ukuba ubomi bam bungabi lula kodwa bube mnandi. Ukuba nokutya, umbala, ifilimu, okanye indawo enokukwenza uzive usekhaya kuwe kangangokuba yonke enye into iyaphela luluvo oluhle kakhulu.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso
Ityala: UMarianne Eloise
Ipinki iye yanobomi obuninzi. I-Pink iye yatshata ixesha elide ndiyakhumbula, ukukhutshwa kwamantombazana kuphela amantombazana kunye nesini kubonisa amaqela, kodwa oko kuqala ukutshintsha. Kutshanje, ipinki yeminyaka eliwaka yeemveliso zeGlossier kunye neeAirbnbs zalawula ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elenza ukuba abantu abaninzi bagule kukubona. Nangona ukupheliswa kwayo yonke into kuphuma, ndihlala ndingoyena mntu usathenga yonke into kuwo nawuphi na umthunzi kufutshane nepinki yomntwana. Ikhaya lam ngu ipinki yosana, kodwa ngaphezulu koko, umntwana opinki likhaya lam.
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