Indlela yokujongana nokukhumbula ikhaya

Siye sonke apho. Nokuba upakishe ubomi bakho ngokuhamba unqumla ilizwe, okanye ukuhambo nje olwandisiweyo lweshishini, ngamanye amaxesha awunakunceda kodwa uzive ukhumbula ekhaya.

Ungamelana njani xa unqwenela ukuba sekhaya kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ingaba ezi mvakalelo zithetha ntoni? Sabiza ugqirha wezengqondo UJoshua Klapow , Ph.D., ukusinceda ukuba sichithe yonke into esakha safuna ukuyazi malunga nokukhumbula ikhaya. Ukusuka kwiimpawu ukuya kwizinto onokuzenza ukuze uzive ungcono, nantsi into ekufuneka eyabile.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukukhumbula ikhaya?

Ukukhumbula ikhaya kubanzi ngokwasemphefumlweni kunokuba ushiye ikhaya lakho, nangona oko kuhlala kuyinto enegalelo. Ukuziva ukhumbula ekhaya kuhlala kuthetha ukuziva uphulukana nentuthuzelo, uphoswa 'yinto eqhelekileyo', kwaye uphulukana nento oyaziyo. Inokuba ngumxube wokuziva unexhala malunga nendawo okuyo, usizi kunye nokulangazelela ikhaya lakho kunye nokuhlala okuqhelekileyo, kunye neemvakalelo zempumlo ezibonakala ngathi ziyavela. Ukukhumbula ikhaya ngamava okulangazelela okuqhelekileyo kunye nokuziva ungonwabanga okanye ungaqinisekanga malunga nemeko yangoku. Inokulahleka ngokoqobo endlwini yakho. Kodwa isenokulahleka nosapho lwakho, abahlobo, abamelwane, abantu osebenza nabo, izilwanyana zasekhaya, kunye nendawo yokutyela yasekuhlaleni — ngenene nantoni na engumqondiso okanye isikhumbuzo sekhaya. Ukukhumbula ekhaya kuthetha ukuba ukwimo yotshintsho-ungaphandle kwesiqhelo kwaye awukazifaneli indawo okuyo ngoku.

(Ityala lemifanekiso: Anna Spaller)

Zeziphi iintlobo zezinto ezinokubangela ukukhumbula ikhaya?

Omnye wemiceli mngeni wokukhumbula ekhaya kukuba inokubangelwa kukuninzi kweempawu. Ukubona okanye izandi ezikhumbuza ikhaya, izinto ezenzeka kwindawo yakho entsha ezikhumbuza ngento oyenze ekhaya. Iifowuni okanye iingxoxo zevidiyo ezivela ekhaya zinokubangela ukukhumbula ekhaya. Iingoma onokuziva zidibene nekhaya. Ukutya okanye ivumba elikukhumbuza ngento esekhaya. Ukongeza kuzo zonke izikhumbuzo, amaxesha oxinzelelo kwindawo yakho entsha kunokubangela ukukhumbula ikhaya; Amaxesha okuba uwedwa kwindawo okuyo nayo inokubangela ukukhumbula ikhaya. Ukongeza, ukuziva ugula okanye ugula — apho uziva ungomelelanga, ukuba sesichengeni ngakumbi — nako kunokubangela ukukhumbula ikhaya. Nantoni na ekukhumbuza ngekhaya, okanye nayiphi na imiceli mngeni evelayo kwimeko entsha inokubangela ukukhumbula ikhaya.

Ziintoni iimpawu zokukhumbula ikhaya?

Ukuba nobunzima ekuhlengahlengiseni okanye ekwamkeleni indawo yakho entsha, ucinga ekhaya imini yonke, uzifumana uphupha emakhaya, uziva uxhalabile ngendawo entsha kwaye ufuna ukubuyela ekhaya. Ngapha koko, ukuziva ungenalusizi kwiingoma ezindala, ukutya okudala, iimeko ezindala ezikukhumbuza ngekhaya zikwangumqondiso wokuba ungakhumbula ekhaya. Ukuthi 'phithi' yile nto iqhubekayo ekhaya, ukuba zenziwa njani izihlobo zakho, usapho, njl.njl. Zonke ezi ziyimpawu yokukhumbula ekhaya.

(Ityala lemifanekiso: UFederico Paul)

Ungakuphilisa njani ukukhumbula ikhaya?

Ukukhumbula ikhaya kuqheleke kakhulu kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo kwindawo yotshintsho ukuze uqhele imeko entsha, utshilo uKlapow.

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Ukulawula ukukhumbula ikhaya kukho amanyathelo aliqela acebisa ukuba ungathatha:

1. Qaphela ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye uzinike imvume yokuba neentsuku ezintle neentsuku ezimbi.

Iimvakalelo zokukhumbula ikhaya zihlala zitolikwa njengeyona nto iphosakeleyo. Ukuqonda nokwamkela ukuba iimvakalelo zezokwexeshana, musa ukubonisa unobangela we-alamu kwaye ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yotshintsho ihlala inceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo olunxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zokukhumbula ikhaya.

2. Ziqhelanise nendawo yakho entsha.

Kubalulekile ukwenza indawo entle. Yenza indlu yakho ibe yinto evakalelwa kukuba ikhululekile ngokwasemzimbeni, enakho konke ukuthuthuzela isidalwa ekufuneka ukuziva ukhuselekile emzimbeni kunye nokukhuseleka ngokwasemoyeni. Ke ngokukhawuleza, misela isiqhelo. Iziqhelo ziqhelekile, kwaye ukukhumbula ekhaya kunokuncitshiswa xa kwaziwa okungaziwayo. Uyithenga phi igrosari yakho, apho ufuna ukuzilolonga khona, indawo oyithandayo yekofu okanye indawo yokutyela, into oyityayo kwaye nini-eyona nto iphambili kukubanga okwakho ngokwesiqhelo.

3. Hlala uqhagamshelene nekhaya (kodwa ngendlela ecwangcisiweyo).

Kulungile kwaye kuhle ukudibanisa ubuyele ekhaya kodwa mayibe yinxalenye yesiqhelo sakho. Isicatshulwa semihla ngemihla okanye i-imeyile. Umnxeba weveki. Impelaveki ye-Skype okanye ye-FaceTime. Isiseko sokuchukumisa silungile ukuba nje asilawuli kwimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla. Yenza ikhaya kunye neziganeko zekhaya libe yinxalenye yosuku lwakho xa kuthelekiswa nokujongwa kosuku lwakho.

4. Thetha nabanye.

Kangangendlela onokuziva ngathi nguwe wedwa ofumana olu langazelelo lungaqhelekanga, abantu abakungqongileyo baya kuyifumana. Qala ukwenza unxibelelwano emsebenzini, esikolweni, okanye kwindawo yakho entsha. Fumana abantu onokuba nobuhlobo nabo. Kulungile ukwazisa abantu ukuba ukhumbula ikhaya. Unokumangaliswa kukuva amabali abo kwaye ufumanise ukuba baya kuzama ukukunceda woyise ukukhumbula ikhaya.

UCaroline Biggs

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