Iindlela ezingama-99 ezahlukileyo onokuba Ngummelwane ongcono ngazo

Ikhaya alipheli kumnyango wakho wangaphambili. Ngelixa singekhe sijonge phantsi kwamandla esofa elithambileyo nelizikayo, kukho iindlela ezingaphezu kwenye yokwenza ikhaya elizive likhululekile kwaye linomxholo-kwaye okuninzi kwenzeka ngaphandle kweendonga zakho ezine.

Abamelwane bakho kunye noluntu olunempembelelo enkulu kwindlela yakho yokuphila. Cinga ngoxinzelelo olusondeleyo lobusuku bokuhlala kwiflethi-encinci yendlu efulelwe phakathi kwabamelwane abaqhuba indawo yokudanisa yomdaniso (mhlawumbi uhlala apho ngoku?), Xa kuthelekiswa nolwaneliseko olukhulu lokuhlala kwindawo apho ungaze ube khona qaphela abamelwane ngaphandle kokuba belahla ii-cookies ezisandul 'ukubhakwa kwi-doormat yakho kunye nenqaku lokuba baqinisekisiwe ngemibhobho yamanzi, ukuba ufuna ukuba bajonge isinki sakho esivaliweyo ngokukhawuleza.

Ukuhlala phakathi kwabantu abanolwazelelelo kuthetha ukuba wonke umntu angalonwabela ikhaya lakhe ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa oko kuthetha wena kufuneka ube ngummelwane ongathanda ukuba naye, naye.

Ukuba ufuna ezinye izimvo, sidibanise uluhlu olukhulu lweendlela onokuba nobubele ngazo, unesisa okanye, ubuncinci, uhloniphe abantu owabelana nabo ngesakhiwo sakho, isitalato kunye noluntu.

• Bulisa abamelwane bakho njengokuba ubabona. Umolo olula okanye isaza esivela kwindlela eyaneleyo sanele.
• Nika abamelwane bakho iintloko xa ubamba itheko. (Okanye ubameme!)
• Ukuba unabantu abangaphezulu, qiniseka ukuba abayithinteli indlela yommelwane okanye bathathe indawo yokupaka yomnye umntu.
• Bonisa uxanduva lwezilwanyana zasekhaya, kwaye uzigcine zingangeni kwindawo yabamelwane bakho, kokubini ipropathi kunye neyakho.
• Njalo gcina inja yakho kwi-leash kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo.
• Thatha emva kwezilwanyana zasekhaya.
• Buza umnini ngaphambi kokuba uvumele inja yakho ibulise enye inja yommelwane okanye umntwana.
• Fundisa abantwana bakho isimilo esihle malunga nendlela abanxibelelana ngayo nabamelwane babo, ezinje ngeendawo ezizimeleyo, okanye into ekufuneka bayenze ukuba ibhola yabo ingena eyadini yomnye umntu.
• Musa ukulayisha ngaphezulu inkunkuma kunye nemigqomo yokurisayikilisha, okanye ubeke imigqomo yakho ngaphambi komhla wokuthwala. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba imigqomo yakho igcwele kakhulu, cinga ngokufumana enye.
• Phatha iingxaki zezinambuzane ngoko nangoko; zinokusasazeka kumakhaya abamelwane bakho.
• Ukuba ufumana imeyile yommelwane wakho ngempazamo, yizise kubo.
• Bamba iingcango zivulekele abamelwane bakho, ngakumbi ukuba izandla zabo zigcwele.
• Musa ukuhleba malunga nabamelwane bakho, kumntu okanye kwi-intanethi.
• Musa ukumamela kwiingxoxo zabanye. Ukuba ngempazamo uve into ethile, sukuphinda nakubani na.
• Yiba nembeko yabucala yabanye, kwaye ungangeni kumthetho wabamelwane bakho.
• Zigcine uyazi indlela oziphethe ngayo, ngakumbi nayiphi na into enokubonwa, ukuviwa, okanye ukunukiswa ngabantu ohlala nabo. Yiba ngummelwane ongathanda ukuba naye.

• Thobela imigaqo esemthethweni yendawo ohlala kuyo okanye umbutho wabanini bamakhaya, kubandakanya nezithintelo zokupaka, iishedyuli zenkunkuma, kunye neeyure zokuthula.
• Musa ukudlala umculo wakho phezulu, okanye emva kwexesha.
• Sukungxola epasejini.
• Gcina iiyure ezizolileyo kusasa nangokuhlwa.
• Ukuba uyatshaya, yenza njalo kude namagumbi abamelwane bakho kunye neendawo ezingaphandle.
• Ukuba unomdla wokuzonwabisa ongxolayo, yazisa abamelwane bakho ngayo, kwaye ubuze ukuba likho na ixesha elifanelekileyo losuku lokuba uziqhelanise nalo.
• Ukuba kuya kufuneka ubethe ngesando kudonga oluqhelekileyo, lwenze ngexesha lasemini.
• Ukuba wabelana ngendawo yokuhlamba iimpahla, hlala ngaphezulu kwemithwalo yakho kwaye utshintshe izinto ngokukhawuleza.
• Qaphela izinto eziqhelekileyo (njengechibi, i-grill, okanye indawo yokuqina) ngokungathi yeyakho, kwaye ushiye izinto zibhetele kunokuba uzifumene.
• Ukuba ubona into efuna ukulungiswa kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo, yazisa umphathi okanye umninindlu. Musa ukucinga ukuba omnye umntu unayo.
• Gcina iindawo ozibonayo — njengomnyango ongaphambili okanye ibhalkhoni — icocekile, ingenazinto zininzi, yaye igcinwe kakuhle.
• Qhuba kancinci kwaye ngononophelo kwindawo yokupaka okanye ezinye iindlela ekwabelwana ngazo.

• Qinisekisa ukuba ulandela imimiselo yesixeko malunga nenkunkuma, ingxolo, okanye nayiphi na enye inkathazo.
• Musa ukucheba ingca okanye usebenzise izixhobo ezingxolayo kwangethuba ngeempelaveki.
• Qaphela xa uphonsa uphondo lwakho kwindlela yokuqhuba.
• Khumbula xa izibane zakho zangaphambili zikhanya kwiifestile zabanye abamelwane.
• Gcina ulungiso lomhlaba wakho kunye nekhaya langaphandle ukuya kumgangatho wabo bonke ubumelwane.
• Qaphela izibane zakho zangaphandle; kulungile ukugcina iindawo ezinesithunzi zikhanyisile, kodwa kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba izibane zakho azikhanyisi kwiifestile zommelwane.

• Zazise kubamelwane bakho abatsha ngokukhawuleza.
• Baxelele malunga nendlu yakho okanye usapho, kwaye ubanikeze amagama akho, iinombolo zefowuni kunye needilesi ze-imeyile.
• Funda amagama abo (kunye namagama abantwana babo okanye izilwanyana zasekhaya), bakhumbule, kwaye ubasebenzise. Akukho hlazo ekugcineni inqaku kwifowuni yakho de ube ubazi ngentloko.
• Bazisele into encinci okanye isipho, njengebhotile yewayini, ukutya okuphekiweyo ekhaya, ikhadi lesipho, okanye isipha seentyatyambo.
• Nika izindululo ngazo naziphi na iinkonzo zalapha ekhaya ozithandayo-ezinje ngemibhobho yamanzi, ngomatshini wokucheba ingca, ngesicoci owomileyo, okanye ngendawo entle yokuthatha.
• Bamba i-potluck okanye iyure ye-cocktail yesakhiwo sakho okanye ubumelwane ukuze ubazi abamelwane abatsha.
• Ukuba nguwe entsha kwibhloko, mema abamelwane bakho kwiqela lakho lokufudumeza indlu.

• Ndibulisele kubamelwane bakho ndibulise, ndincume okanye ndibulise qho xa ubabona. Buza ukuba baqhuba njani.
• Ukuba ubona ummelwane ephethe igrosari okanye into engalindelwanga, bancede bakothule.
• Phatha imigqomo yenkunkuma yabamelwane bakho kumqukumbelo wosuku lwenkunkuma.
• Ukuba ubona bephethe impahla, yisa emnyango.
• Ncoma abamelwane bakho. Ukuba uyazivuyela iintyatyambo zazo, imihombiso yazo, okanye imoto yazo entsha, yitsho njalo.
• Funda iishedyuli zomsebenzi zabamelwane bakho. Umzekelo, ukuba omnye wabamelwane bakho osenyongweni usebenza ishifti yasebusuku, unokufuna ukugcina imbeko eyahlukeneyo.
• Ukuba uyazi ukuba abamelwane bakho banabantwana abancinci ekhaya, buza ukuba leliphi ixesha abadla ngokulala ngalo ukuze uhlale uthule kwaye ujonge abantu abakhala emnyango.
• Funda amasiko abamelwane bakho, iinkolo, okanye unxibelelwano, kwaye ubanqwenelele okuhle kwiiholide okanye kwimisitho.
• Funda izithintelo zokutya kubamelwane bakho kwaye uzigcine engqondweni xa ubamba i-potluck okanye ubaphathela isipho.
• Zama ukuba ngaphandle ngaphezulu. Thatha uhambo okanye uchithe ixesha elisemgangathweni ngaphandle ukuze ubone kwaye ubulise abamelwane bakho rhoqo, kwaye wenze indawo ohlala kuyo izive ngathi yindawo yokuhlala.
• Zimasa amaqela ebhloko, ubusuku beemovie epakini, abapheki boluntu, kunye neminye iminyhadala yobumelwane.
• Misela ulindelo lwakho ngokufanelekileyo. Abamelwane bakho basenokungabi ngabamelwane njengawe, kwaye kulungile!

• Ukuba ubona umntu ophuma evenkileni, buza ukuba akukho nto bayifunayo.
• Ukuba uyakonwabela ukutya okanye ukusela kwiveranda yakho okanye eyadini, nikeza nabaphi na abamelwane obabona bedlula.
• Ukuba ucheba ingca, ufoshela indlela esecaleni, uvuthela amagqabi, uhlamba umbane kwipatiyo, okanye uhlambe imoto, cela ukwenza okufanayo nakummelwane wakho. Nje ukuba wakhe ubudlelwane, ungayenza ngaphandle kokucela, njengembeko. Ngexesha, ndibheja ukuba baya kuqala ukwenza okufanayo kuwe.
• Bazise xa uza kuba ngaphandle kwedolophu ukukhuthaza ubudlelwane apho ujonge khona. Ukuba kukho into ongasayi kuyisebenzisa ngelixa ungekho-njengendawo yokupaka-uyinike ummelwane wakho.
• Cela imvume yokusayina iiphakeji zabo. Xa usenza njalo, shiya inqaku emnyango.
• Nikezela ngokugcina umntwana-nokuba nje banokubaleka ukuya evenkileni umzuzu.
• Nikezela ukubukela izilwanyana zabo, unkcenkceshele izityalo zabo, okanye ujonge i-imeyile xa bephuma edolophini.
• Nikezela ngokuthatha inja yommelwane wakho xa uhamba. Iya kuba luhambo oluhle kuwe, ngakumbi ukuba awunazilwanyana zasekhaya. Isenokuba sisenzo esiluncedo kubo, ngakumbi ukuba kunzima ukwenza ngokwabo.
• Mema abamelwane bakho kwisidlo sangokuhlwa ngamanye amaxesha.
• Ukuba unabantwana, nikela ngokusingatha umdlalo wokudlala ukuze bazi abantwana babamelwane bakho.
• Ukuba uyazi ukuba ummelwane wakho uyagula okanye uyasokola, ziphathele ukutya okufudumeleyo okanye wenze into entle njengokuthwala iimeyile zakho okanye wenze umhlakulo kwindlela yazo.
• Ukuba imoto yabo isevenkileni, cela ukubakhwelisa.
• Hlela i-carpool kunye nezinye iintsapho kwindawo yakho.
• Funda imihla yokuzalwa yabamelwane bakho, okanye imihla yokuzalwa yabantwana babo, ukuze ubenqwenelela okuhle okanye ubaphathele ikhadi elincinci okanye isipho.
• Nikezela ukuvumela abamelwane bakho basebenzise iinxalenye zekhaya lakho, njengephuli yakho okanye indawo ecekeceke yecala elihleliyo.
• Cela ukuboleka izinto zakho xa ubona ummelwane wakho eswele.
• Ukuba uboleka nantoni na, yibuyise kwangoko ikwimeko ecocekileyo negqibeleleyo, okanye unikezele ngokulungisa okanye ukuhlawula ukulungisa nawuphi na umonakalo.
• Nje ukuba ufumene ummelwane omthembileyo, nikela ngentengiso yezitshixo zendlu esecaleni kunye nabo njengesikhuselo xa unokutshixelwa ngaphandle okanye ufuna uncedo xa ukude.
• Nika abamelwane bakho ikhadi okanye isipho esincinci malunga neeholide.
• Xa usenza ibhetshi enkulu yento, yizise ipleyiti encinci kubamelwane bakho.
• Xa uphika, buza ummelwane wakho ukuba banazo naziphi na izinto eziyimfuneko ngaphambi kokuba uzinike okanye uzibeke elunxwemeni.
• Ukuba ummelwane wakho okanye usapho lwabo lunyusa imali okanye bathatha inxaxheba kumsitho wesisa, thenga into okanye unikele ngemali, ukuba uyakwazi.
• Ukuba ufumana izinto ezivela emsebenzini wakho, njengokuphatha ekhaya okanye abahlobo kunye nesaphulelo sosapho, cela ukwabelana ngaso nabamelwane bakho.
• Ukuba unesakhono esikhethekileyo okanye urhwebo, nikela iinkonzo zakho kummelwane wakho njengembeko.
• Musa ukucela okanye usebenzise inzuzo yommelwane wakho okanye izakhono-malunga nokuba nobubele nolwazelelelo, ungafumani freebie.

• Joyina umbutho wakho wobumelwane kwaye uye kwiintlanganiso.
• Zimasa iintlanganiso zombutho wabanini bamakhaya okanye, nokuba bhetele, khwela ebhodini.
• Thatha inxaxheba kwiibhodi zemiyalezo ezikwi-intanethi kunye namaqela ebumelwaneni bakho. Gcina amaxabiso akho kwi-intanethi, ubize isimilo esingafanelekanga xa ukwazi, kwaye usoloko uthetha nabantu kwi-intanethi ngobubele obufanayo kunye nokuhombisa ngokungathi ujongene nabo.
• Funda malunga nokuxhasa iintshukumo zommandla zokuthethelela ezinomtsalane kumaxabiso akho. Lwela amalungelo akho kunye nabanye abamelwane bakho.
• Yazi ukuba ngoobani abameli bakho, kuwo onke amanqanaba.
• Vota. Zifundise malunga nolonyulo kunye nemilinganiselo eyenzeka apha ekhaya.
• Ukuba uyakwazi, nikela ngexesha okanye imali kubagqatswa kunye nemiba exhasa amaxabiso akho.
• Ukuba ungathanda ukubonisa iimpawu zomkhankaso ukuxhasa izizathu okanye abagqatswa, qiniseka ukuba bakwipropathi yakho.
• Hlela iprojekthi yenkonzo kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Hlanganisa abanye babamelwane bakho kwaye ucebise ngemini ukucoca ipaki yendawo, okanye ukuvolontiya kwindawo yokufihla intloko ekufuphi.
• Yenza indawo yoluntu, efana negadi ekwabelwana ngayo, okanye isikhululo somdlalo webhodi kwigumbi lokuphumla.
• Thatha inkunkuma xa ubona inkunkuma. Musa ukungcolisa.

• Zama ukunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso xa unakho (kwaye uzive ukhuselekile ngokwenza njalo). Kunzima ukunxibelelana nemiba ebuthathaka ngombhalo okanye nge-imeyile.
• Musa ukushiya amanqaku angenaburhalarhume.
• Ungazivezi izikhalazo zakho kwiindawo zonxibelelwano ezinje ngeNextdoor.
• Ukuba ummelwane uza ephethe kakubi okanye ezokuxelela ukuba ugcine umsindo, thetha ngobuchule kwaye ucele uxolo. Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba ulungile, zilungiselele ukuzixhasa ngezibakala okanye ngemithetho, kodwa gcina engqondweni owona mthetho ubalulekileyo ngumthetho wegolide: Yenza kwabanye njengoko ubuya kwenza kubo kuwe.
• Ukuba uyazi ukuba weqile-njengeqela lakho elikhulu lihambile kakhulu-khangela ummelwane wakho kwaye uxolise ngokukuko. Qaphela ukuba ungaziphindi iimpazamo ezifanayo.
• Ukuba abamelwane bakho bakwazisa ukuba inja yakho inengxaki ngokukhonkotha, yiza nayo kugqirha wezilwanyana okanye umqeqeshi wezinja kwaye ubone ukuba zikhona na iindlela zokuyilungisa ukunqanda ukuphazamisa ubumelwane xa ungekho ekhaya.
• Xa unesikhalazo esincinci nommelwane wakho, thetha nabo ngokuzola nangengqondo evulekileyo. Zama ukuqonda ukuba ngaba isenzo sabo besiyimpazamo engenatyala endaweni yayo nayiphi na into enobubi.
• Ukuba unombandela omkhulu kummelwane wakho kwaye uziva ukhuselekile ngokwenza njalo, thetha nabo ngqo malunga nawo. Ukubiza amapolisa kummelwane wakho linyathelo elinzima elinemiphumela engalindelekanga.
• Ukuba ufuna ukubandakanya umntu wesithathu, cinga ukuba ngaba enye iarhente- njengomnini-khaya wakho, isebe lezococeko, okanye ulawulo lwezilwanyana — lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kunamapolisa.
• Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba ummelwane wakho ulixhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya, zama ukufumana ixesha lokuthetha nabo wedwa unike uncedo okanye ezinye izixhobo (njengokukhwela kwenye indawo, okanye inombolo yomnxeba).

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