Kwiminyaka embalwa emva, iNew York Times yapapasha inqaku malunga imibuzo eli-13 ekufuneka usoloko uyibuza komnye umntu ngaphambi kokuba utshate . Eyona nto indenze ndacinga ngolunye uhlobo lobudlelwane, olunokuba lubaluleke ngakumbi kunomtshato, kwaye abantu bangene kulo mhlawumbi benethemba elingaphaya: phakathi kwabantu ohlala nabo. Nalu uluhlu lwemibuzo eli-11 ofanele ukuba uyibuze umntu onokuhlala naye, ngaphambili uyangena.
Bubuphi ubushushu obuthandayo ukuseta i-thermostat?
Unyango lwabasebenzi beNdlu bakhe baqhula ngokudala i-app yokuthandana eya kuthi ihambelane nabantu ngokusekwe kubushushu abathanda ukuseta i-thermostat kuyo. Kodwa ndingatsho, xa ndithetha ngamava, ukuba ayisiyonto yokuhlekisa le. Ewe, ukuba uhlala kwindlu ye-NYC eneeradiyetha awukwazi ukulawula kunye neeyunithi zeefestile kuwo onke amagumbi, luhlobo lwenqaku, kodwa ukuba uhlala njengomntu wokwenene, iqondo lobushushu onqwenela ngalo ukuseta i-thermostat yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ekuqwalaselweni kwegumbi lokuhlala. Kungathethathethwana ngeedigri ezimbalwa, kodwa ukuba umntu ohlala naye wonwabile eneminyaka engama-64 kwaye ukhetha i-balmier engama-78 - kungcono ulungele ulungelelwaniso olunzulu.
Esi sisitshixo sokufumana ukulala okuhle kobusuku-Uya kufuna ukutshintsha iThermostat yakho
Ziza kujongwa njani iirhafu namatyala?
Ndihlala ndisiva kusithiwa ezona zinto zibangela uxinzelelo emtshatweni zezesondo kunye nemali. Ngaphandle kokuba ube nobudlelwane obungahambelaniyo, ngekhe ulalane nomntu ohlala naye, kodwa kusekho into yemali onokucinga ngayo. Ngumbono olungileyo ukuseka, ngaphambi kokuba ungene, ukuba izakuhlawulwa njani imali inyanga nenyanga, ngubani onoxanduva lokuyibhatala, kwaye ngubani ozakubhatala nabani obuyisela into. Ikwangumbono olungileyo ukuseka ixesha elilindelweyo lokuhlawulwa. Ukuba uhlawula irenti epheleleyo rhoqo ngenyanga yokuqala, ngaba ulindele ukuba umntu ohlala naye abuye ngaloo mini? Okanye ngaba kwiintsuku ezintlanu kamva kulungile?
Ngaba uyathanda ukonwabisa?
Kokwakho, ukumema abahlobo abambalwa ngomzuzu wokugqibela kunokubonakala kulungile, kodwa kwigumbi lakho lokulala elinokuba libali elahluke ngokupheleleyo. Le yinto elungileyo ukuba uthethe ngayo ngaphambi kwexesha. Ngaba umntu ohlala naye ufuna isilumkiso xa abantu besiza? Kwaye lithini ixesha elilindelweyo? Imizuzu engama-30? Iintsuku ezintathu? Ukuba uyakuthanda ukuhlala wedwa kwaye umntu oza kuhlala naye egumbini ufuna ukucwangcisela kwangaphambili, oku kunokuba kungangqinelani.
Apho ukuGcina khona iingubo kunye neeNgxowa xa Uba nePhathi enkulu kwindawo encinci
Uthini umgaqo-nkqubo wethu malunga nabanye ababalulekileyo?
Njengokuba ubudlelwane buqala ukukhula, kuyindalo ukuba enye yakho ebalulekileyo ingaqala ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kwindawo yakho. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nomntu ohlala naye malunga nezi meko phambi kokuba zenzeke. Ngaba kulungile ukuba omnye obalulekileyo ahlala endlwini yakho ubusuku bonke? Iintsuku ezintathu? Ngonaphakade?
Siza kwahlula njani imisebenzi yasekhaya?
Le ilungile ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukuxoxa ngayo. Ngaba niza kutshintshana ngokucoca igumbi lokuhlambela, ikhitshi, imigangatho? Okanye nganye yamkela indawo eyahlukileyo? Thetha ngokungqalileyo. Yenza itshathi xa kukho imfuneko.
Itshathi Ekuphela Kwento Oyithandayo
Makhe sithethe ngombundu wakho wokucoceka.
Nantsi into endiyifundileyo kumava: wonke umntu unendlela eyahlukileyo yokucoceka, okanye indawo apho ukungcola kuba lisikizi kuwe kangangokuba awunakukunceda kodwa uyicoce. Abanye abantu (ndinetyala apha) balungile ngokucoca igumbi lokuhlambela kube kanye ngenyanga, ngelixa abanye into engaphantsi kweveki iyenyanyeka. Abanye abantu bothuswa zizitya ezihleli esinkini ubusuku bonke; abanye abakho. Ukuba uhlala nomntu onomda osezantsi kakhulu kunowakho, unokufumanisa ukuba bayakuphelisa ukucoca emva kwakho amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba ungathanda, kuba oko kubonakala ngathi ayisiyonto inkulu kuwe kunene enkulu kubo. Kubalulekile ukuba uxoxe kungekuphela nje ukuba ngubani owenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, kodwa uyenza kangaphi.
Inombolo yeengelosi ezingama-777 ezinentsingiselo
Ukhetha ukuyisingatha njani imbambano?
Ukuthetha nomntu ohlala naye malunga noku kunokuba nzima, kodwa kunokukunceda ufunde okuninzi malunga nezinye iintlobo zobudlelwane, nazo. Ukuba unako, zama ukufumana umntu ohlala naye (ngaphambi kokuba uxinzelelo lonyuke ngaphezulu komgqomo wenkunkuma) ukuze bathethe nawe ngendlela abakhetha ukusombulula ngayo ungquzulwano. Ngaba luhlobo lomntu othanda ukuba ngqo? Okanye ngaba balindele ukuba izinto ezithile zinakekelwe ngaphandle kokubuza ngazo? Ukuba bathe bagqiba ukwenza omnye wemisebenzi yakho ngenye imini, ngaba baya kuyithetha kuwe le nto ukuze ube nokulungisa? Okanye ukucaphukisa ngonaphakade? Ukuba omnye wenu uphepha ungquzulwano kakhulu kwaye omnye akakho, unokucinga ngokufumana omnye umntu onokuhlala naye.
Iiflegi eziBomvu ezi-5 ekufuneka ujonge kuzo xa ukhetha umntu oza kuhlala naye
Siza kuyiphatha njani into yokuhombisa?
Xa nihlala kunye, ngubani oya kuba noxanduva lokufaka ziphi izinto kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo? Kwaye kuthekani ngokuthenga emva kwenyani? Ukuba umntu ohlala naye uzisa ekhaya, yithi, ipowusta entsha okanye ityali, ulindele ukuba kuboniswane nawe? (Kananjalo, nali igama kwizilumko: musa ukuthenga ifanitshala kunye nogxa wakho. Olu luvo olubi.)
Ngaba ishedyuli yakho yemihla ngemihla ijongeka kanjani?
Lo ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlala kwigumbi lokuhlambela (okanye, ndicinga ukuba, ukuba ulala kancinci kwaye umntu ohlala naye uhlala eza ebusuku kakhulu uza kukuvusa). Emngciphekweni wokuvakala njenge-curmudgeon, ndiza kuthi apha oyena mntu uhlala naye egumbini ngumntu oneshedyuli yakhe engafaniyo neyakho kangangoko, ukuze nobabini nibe nemfihlo encinci kwaye ningavumi ukunyathela iinzwane zabanye.
Uthini umqobo wakho wengxolo?
Abanye abantu bafumana isandi sikamabonwakude sithuthuzela, nokuba ababukanga. Abanye bayifumana iyimpambano. Abanye abantu bathanda ukumamela umculo ngalo lonke ixesha, ngelixa abanye bekhetha isandi sokuthula. Loluphi uhlobo lomntu onokuhlala naye egumbini? Uphicotho-zincwadi lwakho lunokubaluleka ngokufana nomdlalo wakho weqondo lobushushu.
Ingxolo engafunekiyo? Nantsi indlela yokufumana uxolo kunye nokuthula ngokuYila
Zithini iimvakalelo zakho ngezilwanyana zasekhaya?
Ukuba omnye wenu sele enesilwanyana sasekhaya, ngaba omnye umntu ahlala naye angonwaba xa esihoya xa umniniyo engekho edolophini? Kwaye ukuba awunaso isilwanyana, kodwa ucinga ngokufumana enye, ngoku kuya kuba lixesha elihle lokuyikhankanya.
Ndilibele ntoni?
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Unyango lweNdlu)
yintoni ukubaluleka kwe-444
Kwaye omnye umntu ohlala naye eluncedo ufunda:
- Ndangena Ndangena Nabaphambukeli aba-5 -Nasi isizathu sokuba ndiyiphose yonke imihla
- I-10 ebalulekileyo ye-IKEA ifumana kuye nakubani na ohlala nabantu ohlala nabo
- Incoko ezi-5 zokuba nabantu ohlala nabo ngaphambi kokuba uphume
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