Xa ufudukela kwisakhiwo esitsha okanye kwindawo entsha, ngaba uzama ukwenza ubuhlobo nabamelwane bakho, okanye ngaba uqhuba nje ishishini lakho? Ngamanye amaxesha, kusengqiqweni ukuzigcina uwedwa, kodwa ukuba abamelwane bakho babonakala ngathi luhlobo lwabantu ongathanda ukubazi, kunokuba kulunge ukuzibeka phaya kancinci. Kwaye ungakhathazeki, ukwenza ubuhlobo kubamelwane bakho akufuneki kuthetha ukuba unkqonkqoze emnyangweni wabo kwaye ungazazisi (nokuba ingcinga yolu xinzelelo kum!). Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokufumana ibhola entsha yobuhlobo.
Bancome xa ubabona
Yeyiphi indlela ebhetele yokuqalisa incoko nomntu ongamaziyo kunokuba ubancome? Uyayazi indlela ekuba mnandi ngayo xa umntu ethatha ixesha ukukuqaphela aze athethe into entle, kwaye yindlela elula yokuqalisa incoko. O elula, ndiyazithanda izihlangu zakho! okanye Yimpahla entle kakhulu leyo! xa ubadlula epasejini unokufumana uncokola. Enye indlela kukubonisa umdla kwizinto ezibonakala ngathi bayazithanda (mhlawumbi uyabaqaphela bephethe isiginkci kwaye nawe uyadlala-ubabuze ngayo!). Zombini ezi ndlela ziya kubonisa ukuba unezinto ezifanayo — izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuncokola kwaye ngethemba lokuba ekugqibeleni nibe ngabahlobo.
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Thatha ithuba lokudibanisa imeyile
Unyanzelekile ukuba ufumane i-imeyile yabamelwane bakho ngaxa lithile, ngakumbi ukuba ukwisakhiwo esikhulu seflethi, ngoko ke yisebenzise! Ukuba ufumene ileta eya kummelwane wakho kwibhokisi yemeyile yakho, yisebenzise njengesizathu sokungqongqoza kubo udlule-kulula kakhulu kunokuzazisa ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ucinga ngakumbi kunokuba bayifaka phantsi komnyango wabo (nangona ukhetha ukuyityibilika phantsi kocango lwabo, ungalithatha elo xesha ubashiyele inqaku- kodwa ngaphezulu emva koko).
Vumela inja yakho ithethe
Ukuba unayo inja, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ngexesha elithile uya kubaleka kubamelwane bakho ngelixa uthatha umhlobo wakho omthandayo onemilenze emine ukuba ahambe. Kwaye ukuba awunayo inja, kodwa banayo, umahluko ofanayo-ubophekile ukuba ubaleke ngexesha lokuhamba ekugqibeleni. Ukuba ufana nam kwaye ufuna ukufuya (ngemvume, ewe) yonke intshontsho oyibonayo, uyazi ukuba inja enobubele yeyona nqanawa yomkhenkce ilungileyo-ke kwixesha elizayo xa ubadlula ngexesha lokuhamba, yithi molo ubuze ngenja yabo . Kwaye ilula: Inja yakho intle kakhulu, ngubani igama labo? kuko konke okufunekayo.
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Shiya inqaku emnyango kwabo
Xa konke okunye kusilele (okanye ukuba iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokugqibela azikufumani kwincoko encinci) ungathatha umtsi omncinci kwaye ushiye abamelwane bakho inqaku. Oku kusebenza kakuhle ngakumbi ukuba uphosa itheko nangaliphi na ixesha kungekudala: Bashiyele inqaku elibazisa ukuba unabantu ngaphezulu kwaye ufuna ukubamema. Banokuvela, okanye banokuthi nje bakungqongqoze emnyango wakho bathi hi ukuba abakwazi kuyenza. Ukuthetha ngamava, oku kuyasebenza ngokugqibeleleyo-konke okuthathiweyo yayiyiposi-yokumema abamelwane bam bangoku kwitheko lam lokuzalwa kwabo ndandihlala nabo egumbini kunye nam ukwenza abahlobo abatsha abambalwa.
Khawukhumbule nje, ukuba abamelwane bakho abaphenduli kwimizamo yakho yobuhlobo, musa ukujuluka-banokuzigcina bodwa, kwaye kulungile kwakhona (kwaye akubonakali kuwe).
Ngaba uye wakha ubuhlobo ngempumelelo nabamelwane bakho? Uyenze njani?
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