Buza uAlice: Ndifuna uMfana endithandana naye ukuba angene ngaphakathi, kodwa hayi izinto zakhe

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Umfana endithandana naye uhambela indlu yam. Zonke izinto ezihonjisiweyo endaweni yam zintsha, zikwimeko entle, kwaye ndichithe imali eninzi kuyo. Ingathathi cala kancinci kunye neblues encinci kunye nemifuno. Xa engena unyanzelisa ukuxhoma imifanekiso yakhe yemidlalo bhanyabhanya kunye nevidiyo kwaye abeke imifanekiso yakhe encinci ejikeleze indawo. Ndizamile ukumxelela ukuba hayi, ukuba ufuna ukuhombisa kuya kufuneka siye evenkileni sikhethe izinto esivumelana ngazo sobabini, kodwa akayithandi loo nto. Kufuneka ndenze ntoni ukumnceda azive amkelekile, kodwa ndigcine isitayile esivuthiweyo kwigumbi endilenzileyo?

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Ndiyakuvuyela ngale nto ibalulekileyo! Ukuhlala kunye neqabane kwahlukile kunokuhlala nomntu egumbini-kumalunga nokuqala kobomi bakho kunye, zombini ngokufanisa kodwa nangokoqobo.

Ngamanye amaxesha bendihlekisa ngelithi isizathu sokuba nditshate umyeni wam kungenxa yokuba enezinto ezimbalwa kakhulu. Ufudukele endaweni yam, ii-closet besezizele kwaye iindonga sele zihonjisiwe. Andiqinisekanga ngendiyenzileyo ukuba ndingafumana umntu ofana nobukhulu bam. Kodwa oko kwathethi, bendisafuna indawo yam ukuba izive ngathi iyindawo yethu. Yena (kabuhlungu) wavota ezimbalwa zezinto zam awayengafuni ukuhlala nazo mihla le, kwaye ndenza into enkulu yokucoca ikhabethe. Kodwa eyona nto yayimnandi ngakumbi yayikukudala izithuba ezivakala ngokwenyani ngathi: Ngunyaka wokuqala, sakha udonga lwegalari oludibanisa izinto esinazo, saza safumana kunye. Ngoku konke oku kuthethwayo, andinguye ogqibeleleyo egumbini. Xa ebuza ukuba iiposta zakhe zebhola ziyaphi, ndamxelela igaraji likanina ilizwe elinye ngaphezulu.

Ndikuxelela eli bali ukukuqinisekisa ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo. Ukungena kunye nokuhlala-ngaphandle kokuqonda nje ukuhlobisa, kodwa kunye nendawo yomntu kunye nemida, imisebenzi yasekhaya, iimali, kwaye ngubani obeka icala lokulala elikufutshane kwigumbi lokuhlambela-angaqala ukuziva ngathi uthethathethwano olukhulu. Kodwa ukukhumbula ukuba kutheni uyenza kwasekuqaleni kunokunceda. Ndibuze oogxa bam bonyango apha ukuba banike ingcebiso malunga nokuyilawula yonke kunye nokukhuhlana okuncinci.

Ukuqala, omnye umhleli ucebisa ukuphakamisa umboniso wokuhombisa kwakhe. Thatha ezimbalwa zeeposta zakhe ezibonisa umdla kwaye zinomdla, umzekelo, kwaye uzimise kakuhle. Okanye ufumane ibhokisi yesithunzi ukubonisa imifanekiso yakhe ayithandayo. Khetha ikhaya elingelilo eyona ndawo iphambili yokuhlala (njengepaseji okanye igumbi lokuhlambela) ukubonisa.

Oku kuyamnceda ukuba azive ngathi unesibonda endaweni, ngaphandle kokuba ikukubona kwakho ngalo lonke ixesha lokuzinkcinkca ngeNetflix.

Kwakhona, omnye umhleli ukhankanya ukuba nantoni na oyithathayo kukuthathela ingqalelo izinto zakhe-kuya kufuneka ufake ingcinga efanayo kwizinto zakho. Ke ukuba nix iipowusta zakhe zomdlalo wevidiyo, ufumana amandla e-veto kwabo baphosa imithwalo ayithiyileyo. Mhlawumbi uya kuthatha isigqibo sokugcwalisa igumbi lokuhlala okanye iindawo eziphambili ngezinto ozifumanayo kunye.

Nokuba zithatha ziphi na izigqibo, qala ngencoko ethe ngqo-ngethemba lokuba yeyokuqala kwabaninzi ukuba yonke le nto yokuhlalisana izakulunga. Isicatshulwa sam esicetyiswayo? Qala ngento enje… Kufuneka siyiqonde indlela yokwenza izinto kumakhaya amabini ezixabisa izinto zibe nye. Ngaba kufuneka siqale ukuthatha isigqibo ngendlela esiza kuyenza ngayo? Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe? Inokukunceda ukubuza ukuba kutheni into ethile ibalulekile: Leliphi ixabiso elibambe iqabane lakho onokuthi ungaliqondi okwangoku? Kumenza azive njani ukubona imifanekiso okanye iipowusta zefilimu xa efika ekhaya ubusuku bonke? Ixabiso lakho yinto ethile yobuhle, kodwa mhlawumbi lixabiso lemvakalelo, okanye ukukhunjuzwa ngexesha elithile ebomini bakhe. Nje ukuba uyiqonde loo nto, ngethemba lokuba ungasebenza kunye ukufezekisa zombini ezi njongo (okanye ubuncinci ukuyazi kuya kukunceda unyamezele ibhokisi enye yezithunzi).

Ekugqibeleni, imalunga nengqondo: Zama ukuyeka ukucinga ngayo njengendawo yakho ahamba kuyo, endaweni yoko khumbula ukuba ngoku izakuba yindawo yakho kunye.

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