Akukho nto imbi njengokwabelana ngendawo nomntu ongabuthwali ubunzima bakhe kwimisebenzi yokugcina indlu. Kodwa wenza ntoni xa kuvela i-dishues kwaye lixesha elisemthethweni lokuthetha imisebenzi kunye nomntu ohlala naye endlini?
Sibuze amaLungelo oMtshato kunye neeNgcali ngeeNtsapho UAntonia Di Leo kwaye UShira Etzion ye U-Andrea Cornell Umtshato kunye noNyango loSapho Ingcebiso kuthethathethwano ngomsebenzi wasekhaya nabanye abantu ekhayeni lakho.
Nazi iindlela ezisixhenxe zokukhumbula xa uzama ukucenga abantu ohlala nabo kunye nosapho ukuba benze into:
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1. Musa ukukhomba ngeminwe
Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu uneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izinto kwaye ayisiyiyo eyokuhlasela ukuba izitya azihlanjululwa ngokukhawuleza ngendlela othanda ngayo, utshilo uDi Leo. Thetha nabantu ohlala nabo uzolile ukuze ucele intlanganiso ukuze nixoxe ngoxanduva lwasekhaya ukuze nonke nibe kwiphepha elinye.
2. Cacisa kwaye ulinganise malunga nolindelo lwakho
Kubalulekile xa kusekelwa imigaqo esisiseko ukuba icace kwaye ithelekiswe malunga nokuba ngubani, yintoni, kwaye xa kufuneka izinto zenzeke, utshilo uDi Leo. Cwangcisa izikhokelo eziqinileyo (okt uMadeline wenza izitya ngoLwesine) ukuze ulindelo lwenziwe lucace.
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3. Cela ukunceda
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abahlala nabo endlini ababelani ngombono wehlabathi ofanayo nowakho malunga nokucoca, u-Etzion uyachaza. Nikezela ukunceda umntu ohlala naye osokolayo ukugqiba imisebenzi ukukhuthaza imvo yokuhlangana, hayi ukulawula.
4. Sebenzisa imiyalezo yam
Ukuba umntu ubonakala ngathi akaphathi uxanduva lwabo ungasebenzisa icebo lokucebisa izibini ngokusebenzisa iingxelo zika-I, ezinje, 'Ndingathanda ukuseka ishedyuli yemisebenzi yasekhaya,' xa kuthelekiswa 'neyenu,' utshilo uDi Leo. Iingxelo ezithi ‘Wena’ —njengale, ‘Awukwenzi umsebenzi wakho olingeneyo’ — zingadala ityala kwaye zinokubangela ukuba umntu lowo avale umlomo okanye azive enomsindo ngokunceda kwixesha elizayo.
5. Yila imvakalelo yobuhlobo
Yenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya uzive njengomzamo weqela kwaye ungahluli uxanduva lokuzisa umanyano ekhayeni lakho, utshilo uDi Leo. Ukuthetha into enje, ‘Uyenza nini imisebenzi yakho kule veki? Mhlawumbi singadlala umculo othile kwaye siwenze kunye, ’iya kudala imvo yokuhlangana xa sigqiba umsebenzi wasekhaya.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: IBethany Nauert)
6. Thetha uzolile
Indlela esithetha ngayo omnye komnye inokutshintsha imeko yomoya ukuba ithiwe thaca ngendlela ezolileyo, efihlakeleyo, utshilo uDi Leo. [Sebenzisa] iingxelo ezinje, 'Heyi, ingaba yonke into ilungile kule veki nawe? Ndiqaphele ukuba izitya azenziwanga, mhlawumbi singathetha ngazo ngelixa sizihlamba kunye? ’Ukudlulisa umyalezo wakho ngobunono.
7. Sebenzisa ithoni yesixando sokwenzela
Ukuba ufuna ukungqala ngqo emntwini usebenzisa ithoni yokudlulisa uluncedo xa uzama ukugcina uxolo ekhaya, utshilo uDi Leo. Zama ukuthetha into enje, ‘Ungakhathala namhlanje?’ Okanye ‘Ngaba unalo ixesha elaneleyo lezitya namhlanje?’ Ukucacisa kwaye ungqale, kodwa ungangqubani, malunga nokuba ungathanda ukuba kwenziwe nini oku.
8. Ukuyekelela kubalulekile
Soloko uhambisa intlonipho yokuzimela kwegumbi ohlala nalo xa usenza ulindelo malunga nomsebenzi wasekhaya, utshilo u-Etzion. Nabo, banelungelo lokukhetha indlela abanqwenela ukuya ngayo ekufezekiseni iinjongo-akukho mntu uyindlela 'elungileyo'.
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