Kuzanywe kwaye kwavavanywa: Ungamfumana njani umntwana wakho ukuba alale kwiBhedi yabo

Bafumene igumbi elimnandi kakhulu elinebhedi emnandi. Kutheni bengaze lala kuyo? Kwaye bayenza nini? Kutheni ingeyodwa?! Ukuba lixesha lokuba umntwana wakho alale ubusuku bonke ebhedini yakhe, nantsi ingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza kanye loo nto.

Okokuqala, masijongane nezibakala: umba wabantwana bethu abalala kwiibhedi zethu awukho kubo ngokupheleleyo. Ikwangathi. Siyayithanda! Sithanda i-snuggles! Sithanda ukuba zincinci! Kwaye kulungile. Kodwa ngoku, nangasiphi na isizathu, ufuna ikhefu. Kulungile, nayo. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ngemida esempilweni, kwaye eli linyathelo lokuqala lokufumana izifundo ezininzi zobomi ngokubhekisele kwimida esempilweni.

Kukho iindlela ezimbini ezisisiseko apho uninzi lwabazali lubenza abantwana ukuba babe nomkhwa wokulala ebhedini yabo: inyathelo nenyathelo indlela okanye utshintsho lobusuku obunye . Zombini zithatha ixesha, ukunyaniseka. Isigqibo phakathi kwezi zimbini ngokwenene sehla kweyona nto isebenzela wena nomntwana wakho. Ukuba umbono wokuchitha ubusuku obuninzi uphuma kwigumbi labo lokulala kwinqanaba elinye ngexesha likwenza ukuba ufuna ukukhupha iliso, yenza utshintsho kubusuku obunye. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho okanye wena (kuba oku kukwakho nawe) udinga ubusuku obumbalwa ukuze uhlengahlengise utshintsho, emva koko uye inyathelo ngenyathelo.

Indlela yenyathelo ngenyathelo ngokusisiseko kubandakanya ukulandela indlela yakho yokulala, ubabeke ebhedini, uthi ulala kakuhle, kwaye emva koko xa befuna ukusondela kuwe, endaweni yokubavumela balale nawe, wena ulale ebhedini yabo-ngobusuku bokuqala. Ngobusuku besibini, uhlala ecaleni kwebhedi yabo. Okwesithathu, ulele kude ngokwaneleyo ukuba banokukubona kodwa bangakuchukumisi. Okwesine, ulala ngasemva kwinto ethile egumbini labo, ke bayazi ukuba ulapho kodwa abanakubona. Emva koko ulala ngaphandle kwegumbi labo. Okokugqibela, ulala ebhedini yakho.

Utshintsho lobusuku obunye Indlela yakho ibandakanya indlela yesiqhelo yokulala, kodwa, ukuba bayavuka ebusuku, uthi, Hayi, ulele ebhedini yakho ngoku, babuye nayo ebhedini, kwaye sukuhlala . Nokuba bangabuya kangaphi, ubenza babuyele ebhedini yabo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uqhankqalazo lubuyela ebhedini yabo. Kwaye baya kuzama uqhankqalazo olwahlukeneyo, kuba abantwana banobuchule kolu hlobo lwezinto.

Ngayiphi na indlela, wakube ufumene ukuba balele bodwa, kwigumbi labo, ngobusuku bonke, ungabuyeli kwimikhwa yakudala . Oku kubaluleke kakhulu! Amathuba okuba, ngenyanga okanye ezimbini, baya kuzama ukubuyela ekulaleni nawe. Qiniseka kwimida oyibekileyo. Babuyele egumbini labo kwaye bathi, Hayi, ulele ebhedini yakho ngoku. Bakhumbuze ukuzimela kwabo sele bekwenzile ngaphambili. Umkhulu, uyakhumbula? Unokwenza oku.

Xa umntwana wakho omncinci ekugqibeleni echitha ubusuku bonke ebhedini yakhe yedwa, vuza oko. Kodwa musa ukugqithisa. Umvuzo ngexesha elinye , kodwa musa ukulindela ukuba busuku ngabunye ebhedini yabo baya kufumana umvuzo.

Kwaye zivuze, nawe . Uyenzile into enzima. Unceda umntu omncinci ukuba akhule. Chitha ubusuku ukonwabela ukhuko lwakho wedwa ngeseti yebhokisi yeDVD kunye neglasi yewayini. Ikufanele. Wenze kakuhle, wena.

UAlison Gerber

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Ukusuka eSydney, eOstreliya, ngoku enqabileyo kukufa eNew England, uAlison Gerber ngumbhali, uMama kunye nomfundi we-master. Xa engekho kubloga , uhlala efumana ukutya ipopcorn ebhedini, ebukele uthotho lwemfihlakalo lwe-BBC.