Ndinezinto ezithile ebehleli kwiidrowa nakwiigunjana iminyaka kwaye-ngelixa ndingazifuni okanye ndizisebenzisa ezi zinto-ndibuhlungu ukwahlukana nazo. Ezinye zizuzwe njengelifa, ezinye ngaphambili zazibalulekile, ezinye azizange zenze ngqondo, kwaye uninzi luthamba: amaphepha, iminyhadala, iintsuku ezintle, kunye nohambo olumangalisa ngokwenene. Zizinto ezincinci zobomi bam ezihlala kwiidrowa okanye ngasemva kweekhabhathi. Kwaye andikaze ndicinge ukuba ndohlukana njani nabo.
Mhlawumbi oku kuvakala kuqhelekile, ubuncinci kwabanye benu, kodwa ndinengxaki yemvakalelo yokuhlukana nezinto ezithile. Ndiyangxama phakathi kokufuna ukuhlala phezu kwekhaya lam, emva koko ndizixelele ukuba KULUNGILE ukuba ezinye izinto zihlale zithe nca kuba zizi-keepakes okanye kungenxa yokuba yintoni eyingozi kwiidrowa ezimbalwa ezizaliswe zizinto? Kodwa ndichithe nje iinyanga ndinceda utata wam ukuba acoce ikhaya losapho, kwaye inkqubo ende kunye neemvakalelo indifundise ukuba ukuba asiyiphathi eyethu into, ekugqibeleni omnye umntu kuya kufuneka ayenze. Ukujongana nezinto ezingamanyala akusoloko kulula.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Julia Brenner)
Ngelixa ndilunge ngokugcina izinto ngokubanzi zobomi ziphantsi kolawulo, ndisasokola ukwahlukana nezinto ezithile endingasazisebenzisiyo okanye ndizonwabele okanye ndizifunayo. Ndiziva nje ukuba kufuneka ndibagcine. Njengezinto eziboniswe apha ngasentla:
- Imigqomo emikhulu emithathu yempahla yosana eguqulwayo, xa ibin enye ibiya kwanela.
- Izitikiti zamatikiti, ukungeniswa kwemyuziyam, amatikiti enqwelomoya, ukudlula kumsitho, iirisithi, ii-ID, imibhalo ebhaliweyo kwimibhalo kunye namaphepha angahleliwe kangangeentsuku, bafana. Iintsuku.
- Izinto ezithile ezizuzwe njengelifa ezithi, ngelixa ndiyithanda imbali yezi zinto, andikhe ndizibonise okanye ndizisebenzise. Kodwa kubuhlungu ukuvuma loo nto — ingathi ndiwisa usapho lwam ngendlela. Ke kunokuba ndibanike, ndiyazixelela ukuba ngenye imini ndizokwazi ukuba ndibabeka phi.
- Iincwadi zokuhamba ezivela kuhambo olwakhayo ndazithatha kwiminyaka eyadlulayo. Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ndifunde malunga nokwenzekayo eParis ngo-2008 okanye e-Itali ngo-2007? Hayi. Kodwa ndiyakwazi ukwahlukana nabo? Hayi.
- Ibhokisi yokoqobo yamatye. Kodwa, kulungile, yabona — xa ndijonga loo matye, andiboni matye. Ndibona umhla ogqibeleleyo kaJuni wachitha intaba ejikeleze iindunduma zaseIndiana ziqokelela loo matye. Ndiyabona ipikniki ebesinayo (prosciutto kunye havarti sandwiches kunye nelemon Italian sodas), kwaye ndibona ukutshona kwelanga lasehlotyeni emva kwexesha njengoko sasiqhubela edolophini ngeefestile ezantsi. Yinike ukuphumla, akunjalo? Ngamatye nje. Ndiyazi. Ndinqwenela ukuba ingqondo yam ikhe iphumle ngamanye amaxesha.
Kutheni le nto kunzima kakhulu ukwahlula izinto zoVavanyo?
Uninzi lwabantu abakrelekrele ngokwenene luyazibuza into efanayo:
- NgokukaJulie Holland, MD, unjingalwazi oncedisayo wezonyango kwizifundo zeYunivesithi yaseNew York, I-clutter yengqondo ilingana nomntu omdala ibhere. (Ndayigcina i-teddy bear yam de ndaneminyaka eyi-18, ke… er, ibuyiseka kakhulu.)
- Isifundo esivela kwiYale School of Medicine sifumanise ukuba kwabaninzi, ukukuyeka kubuhlungu ngokwenyani -Kuthetha ukuba kuthi abanye bethu, iinxalenye zobuchopho bethu ezinxulumene nentlungu yomzimba ziyachukunyiswa xa sizama ukwahlukana nezinto ezithile.
- UJennifer Baumgartner, Psy.D., uyaphawula ukuba I-nostalgia inokwenza ukucoca indawo phantse kube nzima . Uqhubeka athi, sihlala sifaka i-junk yethu kunye nomoya womzuzwana ngexesha, sidibanisa okubambekayo nokungaphatheki. I-junk yethu iba yinto esisebenzisa kuyo amava ethu angaphakathi.
Kwimeko yam, konke oku kuyaphuma. Ndiyazi ukuba ezi zinto zizinto ezinxibelelana nabantu kunye neenkumbulo, kwaye ndicinga ukuba ngokubambelela kuzo, ndibambelele kwimemori-ndibambelele kunxibelelwano-nakwinqanaba elithile elithuthuzelayo. Kodwa xa izinto zingasasetyenziswanga okanye zikonwabela, andigcini nto, ndinguye. Ndijinga kuzo. Kwaye ukuxhoma kwahlukile kunokugcina. Ke ndifuna ukuvumela (ubuncinci kubo), kwaye kunzima. Kodwa iyenzeka, akunjalo?
Ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo: ukwahlukana. Ngaba ukhona, Marie Kondo? Ndim, Julia…
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Julia Brenner)
Uyiqala njani inkqubo yokwahlukana nezinto
Ndifumene amaqhinga ambalwa aqinisekisile ukuba aluncedo kum endiyathemba ukuba aluncedo kuye nabani na kuni ozama ukukhupha izinto ezingafunekiyo ezitsala iintliziyo zenu.
1. Yitsho Usale kakuhle
Bhida into ebambe ixabiso kuwe kodwa ongasayisebenzisiyo okanye ongayonwabeliyo. Le ngcebiso ivela UMarie Kondo Umbhali we Ubomi obuTshintsha ubuGcisa bokuDibanisa . Ingaziva ngathi iyabhanxa ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha, umzekelo, iimpahla zabantwana bam, ukuzibamba, kunye nokuziva unombulelo ngako konke abakumeleyo, kwandinceda ndabayeka bahamba. Ezo mpahla zincinci zenze umsebenzi obalulekileyo kwaye ngoku ngethemba banokwenza omnye umsebenzi komnye umntwana. Kukwanjalo nakwizinto endizizuze njengelifa. Ndithathe isigqibo sokuthumelela i-imeyile abazala bam ukuba babone ukuba banomdla kubo (abanye babekhona), kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ndibathumele kumakhaya amatsha, ndaye ndathatha ixesha lokuzibamba, ukuzijonga, kunye nokuxabisa imbali yezinto kunye namabali abathandwayo. emva kwabo. Emva koko, ndaziva ndinekratshi, ndingenatyala okanye ndilahlekile, njengoko ndandizipakisha ukuze zithunyelwe kude.
2. Cela Uncedo
Mna ucele uncedo . Oku kunokubonakala ngathi yinto ecacileyo yokwenza, kodwa andisoloko ndingoyena mntu ulungileyo xa ndivuma xa ndifuna uncedo ngento ethile (ndiyifumene okanye ndilungile, ndiyakwazi ukuyiphatha amabinzana aziwayo am). Nangona kunjalo, ukukwazi ukuthetha ngenkqubo nomnye umntu kwandinceda ndenza lula imeko kwaye kwandinceda ndacinga ngakumbi malunga nezinto ezithile, njengeencwadi ezithile kunye neeCD endandixhonyiwe kuzo, kuba andizange ndibambelele kwezam iimvakalelo. Umhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho linokuba luncedo olukhulu kwezi zinto kuba aba ngabantu abasincedayo ukuba sihlole iziqu zethu ngaphambi kokuba sizonakalise.
3. Yibhokisi phezulu
Ndenze ifayile ye- ibhokisi yokugcina echongiweyo (ok eneneni zimbini: enye yeyam enye yeyam abantwana) usebenzisa Iibhokisi ze-cigar zeediliya. Ezi bhokisi zincinci ziya kubamba amaphepha am axabisekileyo. Ke ngeli lixa ndisagcina iziqwengana ezimbalwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuphela kwento enokulingana kwezo bhokisi zincinci ngokuchasene nokufakwa kwiidrowa. Indenze ndema ndacinga ngokubaluleka kwezikhumbuzi ezithile zezinto ezibonakalayo kwaye yandivumela ukuba ndivumele amaphepha amancinci ukuba ahambe. Sisisiqalo ke phofu.
4. Thatha iifoto
Khange ndiyenze le (kodwa bendinayo epokothweni yangasemva). Ngenye into kaMarie Kondo endifunde ngayo: ukuziqhelanisa nokuthatha ifoto yento ngaphambi kokuba yahlukane nayo. UMarie uthi, unako soloko uthatha umfanekiso wento ngaphambi kokwahlukana nayo-oko kukuvumela ukuba ugcine isimboli yento, ethi ngamanye amaxesha ibe yiyo yonke into esiyifunayo.
Ngoku lixesha leengcebiso zakho! Ukuba nawe kunzima ukuhlukana nezinto ezithile ezinemvakalelo kodwa ufumane indlela yokwenza, ndingathanda ukuva malunga nendlela yakho. Ingqondo ye-hive ingangqina ukuba iluncedo kakhulu kwezi meko.
