Indlela Yokuba Ngumhlobo Olungileyo Xa Umhlobo Wakho Ehamba

Ukuhamba sisiganeko esibalulekileyo ebomini. Inkqubo ye- Uluhlu lweHolmes-Rahe yoXinzelelo lweempahla Nokuba kubandakanya ukuhamba njengoxinzelelo kuVavanyo loXinzelelo loBomi. Nangona ingekho kwi ezilishumi eziphezulu uxinzelelo lobomi, xa uzama ukuthatha ubomi bakho kwaye unakekele zonke iinkcukacha ezidinisayo eziza notshintsho kwindawo oyibiza njengekhaya, ngokuqinisekileyo inokuziva ngathi.

Njengokuba singathanda ukubonisa umhlobo xa befumana ukwahlukana okanye ilahleko, ukubakho komnye umntu xa eshukuma yenye yezo meko xa uthando kunye nokhathalelo olwandisiweyo ngesandla esincedayo kudala imemori engapheliyo kwaye uphawu lovelwano kwintliziyo yomhlobo.

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Ngaphambi kokuHamba

• Bancede bapakishe. Ukupakisha ayisiyonxalenye yolonwabo. Kunzima ukugqiba ukuba upakishe ntoni kuqala, kunzima ukuqala, kunzima ukuhlala neebhokisi kuyo yonke indawo kwaye uziva ngathi indawo yakho yangoku yehla iza kukujikeleza. Ukunceda umntu enze le nkqubo hayi kuphela kunesizungu, kodwa kongeza ulonwabo. Kunzima nawuphi na umsebenzi owoyikisayo awenziwa ngcono ngokongezwa kwepal.
• Bakhumbuze ukuba bathathe imifanekiso yendawo abashiya kuyo (okanye ubenzele yona). Ngayo yonke ingxwabangxwaba ebandakanyekileyo ekuhambeni, umhlobo wakho usenokungacingi nokuthabatha imifanekiso yekhaya labo langoku. Kwaye nokuba yindawo bonwabile kakhulu ukusuka kuyo, ikhaya labo liyinxalenye yebali labo kwaye kufanelekile ukugcinwa. Ukuhamba ngevidiyo lolunye ukhetho.
• Bajonge abantwana. Ukuba umhlobo wakho unabantwana, ukubakhuphela ngaphandle kwe-ayisikhrim okanye umdlalo webhasikithi kwindlela eya kukhulula ixesha lokuba bagxile kuluhlu lwezinto abanokuzenza ngaphandle kokuziva bekrazukile okanye bephazamisekile. Ukubukela abantwana ngexesha nasemva kokuhamba nako kuluncedo olukhulu.
• Baphatheleni ukutya. Beka ukutya okulungiselelwe kwisikhenkcezisi sakho okanye ushiye isidlo okanye ezimbini. Ukufumana isidlo sangokuhlwa etafileni busuku ngabunye kunzima nokuba yonke into ikwimeko ekhoyo. Yazisa ukulungiselela ukuhamba kwi-equation kwaye akunakubakho ukutya okuninzi okuphekwe ekhaya. I-pasta isosi, i-casseroles, kunye nesuphu konke kulula ukwenza ukutya okufriza kakuhle. (Qaphela ukuba umhlobo wakho unexesha elingakanani ngaphambi kokuba ahambe; awufuni ukuba bakhathazeke ngokuhambisa ukutya okubandayo abangakhange babe nethuba lokonwaba.)
• Nceda ucoce indawo entsha. Ukuba indawo umhlobo wakho ahamba kuyo ifuna ukucocwa, nceda wenze lo msebenzi ngaphambi kokuqala kokuhamba; Ngokucacileyo, ikhaya elingenanto kulula ukulicoca kunelinye eligcwele iibhokisi. Kwaye ecocekileyo yamkeleka ngakumbi.
• Yenza ivenkile kwivenkile. Xa ukufuphi kwivenkile yokutya, ihardware, okanye ivenkile yokuphucula ikhaya, nika umnxeba kumhlobo wakho kwaye ubuze ukuba ungabathathela ntoni. Banokuba nee-Sharpies ezintsha, enye ipakethe yokusonga iphepha, okanye umpu we-tape kuluhlu lwabo kwaye bazise kubo kuya kuba sisiqabu esikhulu esivumela ukuba baqhubeke nokusebenza ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha bephuma evenkileni.
• Qokelela iibhokisi. Buza ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zeebhokisi abazifunayo kwaye ukuba bafuna ukuba ubancede ukuziqokelela. Ziyeke ngamanye amaxesha kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uhlala unolwazi ngeemfuno zangoku. Ukuba unayo ixesha, ncedisa ukuseta iibhokisi ezicwangcisiweyo ukuze zilungele ukugcwaliswa.
• Ipeyinti indawo entsha. Ukuba ukupeyinta kufuneka kwenziwe kwindawo entsha kwaye nabahlobo bakho bayazenzela, ncedisa. Ngokuchasene nokupakisha izinto zakho zobuqu, ezinokuba zizinto abahlobo bakho abangazonwabisiyo nabanye ekuphatheni, ukupeyinta ngumsebenzi omhle ongenabuntu.

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Ngosuku lokuHamba

• Uza kubalapho. Ukubakho nje ngoncumo kunye nokusebenza kuya kuba yinto enkulu yokukhuthaza abahlobo bakho ngosuku lwabo olukhulu.
• Nxibelelana. Sukuthatha naziphi na iindima kwaye musa ukwenza nje ocinga ukuba kufuneka kwenziwe. Yiva isitayile somhlobo wakho ukuba awuyazi kakade ngaphambi kokuba uthathe uxanduva kwindawo ethile okanye uzenze ufumaneke ukuthatha iiodolo. Ukuba unamathandabuzo ngento ethile, buza. Isenokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukwazisa umhlobo wakho ukuba uza kuba lapho ixesha elingakanani unceda nje ukuze bangazindli.
• Yiba ngumntu onxibelelana naye. Yiba nabanye abahlobo abancedisayo ukuba banxibelelane nawe ngeenkcukacha xa kufanelekile ukuze umhlobo wakho akwazi ukugxila kwinto eyenzekayo ngokuhamba.
• Yiza nokutya okanye ulungiselele ukuba kuziswe. Olunye ukonyusa isimilo kunye nokunikezela ngokuchwayitisayo, ukuphatha isidlo sakusasa kunye nekofu kuya kugcina wonke umntu evutha. Xa ixesha lesidlo sasemini nelangokuhlwa lisondela, cela ukulungiselela amalungiselelo okuhanjiswa okanye ukutya ukutya. Musa ukulibala ukuzisa okanye ukuthatha iipleyiti ezilahlwayo kunye nezixhobo kunye neziselo.
• Yiza namanzi abandayo. Cinga ngokuzisa ukupholisa ngeebhotile zamanzi zokuhambisa kunye nabanye abahlobo abancedisayo. Ukunyamekela abanye ukunceda umhlobo wakho kunceda umhlobo wakho.
• Igumbi lokuhlambela impahla kunye neemfuno zasekhitshini. Beka imiqulu yamaphepha yangasese kunye nesepha yesandla kumagumbi okuhlambela nakwisepha yesandla, isepha yesitya, kunye nesiponji ekhitshini. Ukubaleka kwezi xa uzifuna luxinzelelo umhlobo wakho anokuyenza ngaphandle.
• Beka iibhedi zosapho. Nikezela ukuvuthela oomatrasi kunye nokungavuli iibhegi zokulala okanye ubeke amashiti neengubo kwiibhedi ukuze umhlobo wakho kunye nosapho babe nendawo efanelekileyo yokuphumla iintloko zabo ezidiniweyo ngaphandle kokufumana nokwenza iibhedi.

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Emva kokuHamba

• Coca indawo endala. Ukuphulukana nediphozithi yenye yezo ndleko zoyikekayo umntu wonke ancwina ngazo. Nceda ukuthintele oku kunokwenzeka ngokubuyela emva emva kokuba indawo endala ingenanto kwaye uyicoce ngokwemiyalelo yokuphuma.
• Ncedisa ukukhupha. Kwakhona, ukuziva inqanaba lomhlobo wakho lokuthuthuzela kubalulekile kuba into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukongeza uxinzelelo. Umzekelo, unokufuna ukubona ukuba unganceda na ngento efana nokuvula iilensi endaweni yokwenza izigqibo malunga nokuya ekhitshini. Ukuba unceda ecaleni komhlobo wakho kwaye kubonakala ngathi bayayazi into abayifunayo, mema nje kwaye ulandele izicelo ezithile.
• Kwakhona, ukutya. Soloko unceda ngokutya. Jonga kwangaphambili ukuze ubone ukuba zeziphi izandi ezilungileyo nokuba zibandayo, zifriziwe, okanye ukutya okulungiselelwe kulungile, kodwa zimbalwa iziganeko zobomi zokutya okuphekwe ngabanye abanothando akuncedi.
• Bakhumbuze ukuba bazame ukwenza indawo enye esezingqondweni. Ukuba umhlobo wakho utyhafile kwaye uchithe, ekunokwenzeka ukuba emva kohambo, bancede bagcine isilayidi soxolo ngokufumana isithuba esinye esincinci se-hangout kwaye silungelelaniswe. Le isenokuba yitafile yasekhitshini okanye ikona yegumbi lokulala.
• Yiza neentyatyambo okanye isityalo. Xa yonke into isesiphithiphithini, indawo eqaqambileyo yeentyatyambo okanye uhlaza oluthambileyo lwesityalo esisendlini lubonelela ngendawo yokuphumla ukujonga kukabani kwaye azobe uxolo oluncinci.

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