Iifayile ezi-Awkward: Nini (kwaye njani) ukuthi Hayi kwiNdwendwe eziHlangayo

Ukuba isingqengqelo sakho sinyibilika phantsi kobunzima bamaza amaninzi kweli hlobo, unokufuna ukuvuselelwa kwiziseko zeendwendwe / umgaqo olandelwayo. Funda ngokuthatha kwethu ixesha lokwamkela iindwendwe ekhayeni lakho kunye nendlela onokuthi hayi.

Iphepha elichazayo ukuba awusenanto oyifunayo: Likhaya lakho, ke ukhululekile ukumema (okanye ungamemi) nabani na, nokuba sicinga ntoni. Kodwa, ukuba ujonga izikhokelo ezimbalwa ezicetyiswayo, naku usiya.

UDoris ovulekileyo: Ukuba uhamba rhoqo kwaye uhlala uhlala nabahlobo okanye usapho kwezinye iidolophu, kulungile ukubuyisa (kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uya kufumana iimemo ezininzi kwixesha elizayo ukuba unikezela iphedi yakho rhoqo). Ukuba uyakonwabela ukubakho kweendwendwe, ngakumbi ukuba unendawo yokubamkela kakuhle ekhayeni lakho, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubonwabisa abanye babahambi abadiniweyo kwaye ube nebhola ngokwakho ngokwandisa isimemo.

Hayi enkosi Nancy : Ke uza kuthini ukuba awufuni nje ukuba iindwendwe zityhale isitayile sakho? Unokuzifumanisa ungonwabisi ukhafula umthwalo wezizathu xa uzama ukudimaza umntu ukuba angqubana nawe, kodwa akukho sidingo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba beve ukuba indlu yakho incinci kangakanani, indlela ekufuneka uvuke ngayo kwangoko emsebenzini okanye nasiphi na esinye isizathu osicingayo. Inyani yile, ukuthi hayi akufuneki kube yinto enkulu, ephawulekayo. Jonga ezi meko zintathu.

Umgca wakho wokuqala wokhuselo kukungasandisi isimemo (ngaphandle kwetyala!). Masiziqhelanise:

Umhlobo wakho: Hayi, ndiceba ukubakho (kwisixeko sakho) kwiveki ezayo!
Wena: Kakhulu! Masicwangcise umhla wesidlo sasemini kwaye sibambe. Andikwazi kulinda ukuba ndikubone.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ufumana ukuthengisa okunzima ngohlobo lokubuza ngokuthe ngqo:

Umhlobo wakho: Hayi, ndiceba ukubakho (kwisixeko sakho) kwiveki ezayo! Ndingahlala nawe?
Wena: Owu mkhulu! Indawo yam ayizonwabisi iindwendwe, kodwa andinakulinda ukuchitha ixesha nawe ngelixa ulapha.

Okokugqibela, unokufumana into enqabileyo (kwaye sicinga ukuba krwada kancinci) ukuba baya kuhlala nawe, ngolu hlobo:

Umhlobo wakho: Hayi, ndiceba ukubakho (kwisixeko sakho) kwiveki ezayo! Ndizifumana njani izitshixo zakho?
Wena: Ndiyoyika ukuba awunakuhlala nam olu tyelelo, kodwa nazi iihotele ezimbalwa kule ndawo ndiyithandayo.

Yabona? Intlekele ithintelwe. Ukuba awuyenzi into enkulu, ayizukuba yinto enkulu. Ukuphela kwebali.

UJennifer Hunter

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UJennifer uchitha iintsuku zakhe ebhala kwaye ecinga ngokuhonjiswa, ukutya kunye nefashoni kwi-NYC. Hayi kakhulu.