Ndandisoloko ndicinga ukuba andizithandi izinto eziphathekayo — intombazana elula engazisongeli kwizinto enazo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, zizinto kuphela, akunjalo? Kodwa emva koko ndazithoba.
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Iindawo zokuhlala eWashington, DC zibiza imali eninzi, kwaye iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, mna nomyeni wam bekufuneka senze into ukuze sifumane ikhefu kwiindleko zethu zokuhlala. Kithina, ukwehlisela kwindawo encinci yayilinyathelo lokuqala elinengqiqo. Ke ukusukela 1,325 iinyawo ezisikwere ukuya ku 875 iinyawo sikwere saya.
Ndandilungele kakhulu. Ndiziqeqeshe njengomdlali weqonga, ndifunda onke amanqaku kunye nencwadi endinokufumana kuyo izandla. Ndibukele yonke inkqubo yeTV ngesihloko (nditsho nemiboniso ye-hoarding-endingeyiyo i-hoarder-ubuncinci, ndicinga ukuba andikho). Ndaya kuyo ndiziva ndizithembile, ndikhuselekile, kwaye ndikulungele ukuwenza lo msebenzi ngengqondo esulungekileyo kunye nesizathu.
Kodwa xa ndavula ikhabethe lam ukuqala kwam, ndaziva ndiphakuzela kakhulu ukuba ndiza kuphulukana nayo yonke into. Uyazi zonke ezo nkqubo zikamabonwakude apho abantu benza ukuba ukwehliswa kujongeka kungabi nazintlungu, nokuba kumnandi? Ayindim lowo. Ndine-meltdowns kunye ne-hyperventilated (eyona nto indenze ndabuza ezinye izinto ngam).
Kodwa ekugqibeleni ndiyenzile. Kwakuyitshintsho epheleleyo yeparadigm ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ndaqonda ukuba kukho into malunga nezinto esiziqokelelayo: Siyayifuna kwaye asifuni ukwahlukana nayo. Kodwa-ukuba sonke sinyanisekile kwiziqu zethu-kukho izinto ezithile esinyanzelisa ukuzigcina esingazisebenzisiyo, okanye sibonele loo nto. Ihlala ifakwe kwidrowa okanye ikhabethe , ndingaze ndikubone ukukhanya kwemini. Ubuncinane yile ndlela yayinjalo kum.
Emva kokukuqonda oku, ndithathe into yokuhlanjululwa ngokwamanqanaba kwaye ekugqibeleni ndafumanisa ukuba yonke into endiyifunayo ngokwam inokulingana emva kwemoto edibeneyo. Ndiye ndaqonda iimbiza neepani zam, iseti yam yokusika, kunye nembiza yekofu zizinto ebendizidinga… yonke enye into ibikukuntywila.
Ndaye ndaphoswa zizinto ezithile, kodwa zazimbalwa kwaye zazimbalwa — zincwadi ezimbalwa ezazizodwa kum kunye nomenzi wam wekofu opholileyo (kodwa omkhulu kakhulu). Kodwa ukuvalelisa kwezi zinto ekugqibeleni kundishiye ndiziva ndikhululekile kwaye ndikhaphukhaphu; Khange ndiqonde ukuba ndibiwe kangakanani. Obu yayibubomi obulula, ibe ndafunda ukubuthanda.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Nasozi Kakembo)
Ke ndichithe iminyaka embalwa kwi-875 yeenyawo ezikwere zenyawo (kunye neenyawo ezingama-875 zezinto). Kodwa ukuhamba kwam kweeyure ezintathu ukuya kusebenza kwiSithili ekugqibeleni kwaqala ukunxiba kum. Kwaye ndafumana ukhuphiswano, i-ajenda-enzima yokusingqongileyo endikhe ndasebenza kuyo yaqala ukuziva ngathi yi-sandpaper ngokuchasene nendalo yam eqinisekileyo. Ndaqala ukuba ne-migraines, isitshisa, ukulala, kunye noxinzelelo. Ndandifuna ukunceda abantu, kodwa ndandiziva ngathi ndiyintlanzi emanzini.
Ke xa isebe lam lahluthwayo kwaye isikhundla sam sanqunyulwa, ndathabatha njengophawu. Khange ndilandele ezinye izibonelelo kwezinye iiarhente. Endaweni yoko, mna nomyeni wam sakhetha ukumka kumvuzo omathandathu sihambe silula — okanye ke silula. Bendisazi ukuba kufuneka kubekho okungakumbi ebomini kunaleyo bendinayo — kwaye ndandinyanisile. Ke, siye sagqiba kwelokuba siye encinci. Ngokwenene, incinci kakhulu, njengakwiinyawo ezingama-250 zincinci.
Kwaye ngenxa yoko i-Downsize 2.0 yaqala.
Nangona bendikhe ndadlula kuyo ngaphambili, ukwehliswa kobobukhulu ngokwenene ndiyothuse inkqubo yam. Ndandinengxaki yokuxhalaba ngenxa yenxalenye encinci yayo kodwa, njengamava okuqala okucoca, xa ndifumana imilenze yam yolwandle kwakungekho kubi kangako.
Ngoku, ngaphezulu kweminyaka emihlanu emva kokuncipha kwam, i-250-square-feet, ndijonga indawo yam encinci kwaye ndiziva ndikhululekile. Ubomi biziva bulula ngoku. Esona sifundo sikhulu ndisifundileyo, ndiyakholelwa, kukuba ngamanye amaxesha sinezinto, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha izinto zethu zinathi. Ukuncitshiswa komsebenzi kwandivumela ukuba ndikhululeke kuyo yonke loo nto ndibuyele kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu. Ndiziva ndikhululekile, ndonwabe kwaye ndonwabe nyhani. Ndinokuncinci, kuyinyani, kodwa ndinokuninzi kakhulu. Ngoku ngekhe ndibenayo enye indlela.
Ngoku, ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili, izinto ezine endizibonileyo ezenze ukunciphisa ubunzima lula kakhulu.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: David Telford)
1. Kwafuneka ndiyamkele into yokuba zonke izinto zam zazingahambi nam.
Umzuzwana wokuthula, isikhalo esihle, ukukhwaza umhlaba-zonke zamkelekile xa usaphula izinto zakho. Ndahamba kuyo yonke into. Ndifunde ukungazicinezeli iimvakalelo zam kwaye endaweni yoko ndizifumane ngendlela esempilweni. Ukwenza oku kundinike ukuvalwa kwaye kwandivumela ukuba ndiqhubeke. (Ukuxela okugcweleyo: Ukutya ikhekhe okanye ezimbini apha naphaya kwavela kwaba luncedo kakhulu, nayo… nangona ngendikhethe ikhekhe elipheleleyo ukuba bendinegumbi lepani!)
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: U-Lauren Kolyn)
2. Ndenze okucacileyo - Ndicoce.
Zonke iingcali ze-downsize zithanda ukuphosa eli xesha, ngokungathi kulula kakhulu: ayisiyiyo-okokuqala ekuqaleni. Nje ukuba uqhelane nayo, ukucoca izinto zakho akukubi kangako. Ibe yinto eqhelekileyo kubomi bam. Ndiyacoca xa amaxesha onyaka etshintsha kwaye ngoku iziva intle. Ngethuba lokuqala, nangona kunjalo: Leyo yidozozy. Bendigula ngokwasemzimbeni, ubukhulu becala kuba ndiyamthanda, hayi thanda, iincwadi zam kodwa ekuphela kwendlela abanokulingana ngayo kwisithuba sam esincinci esincinci kuya kuba ukuba silala ngaphandle. Ndandilungile noko (ngenxa yeencwadi), kodwa umyeni wam wathi akukho ndlela. Ke, ezinye iincwadi kuye kwafuneka zihambe.
Ekuqaleni, ndafumanisa ukuba ndizama ukugcina yonke into. Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho nto yayihamba kwimfumba yomnikelo. Ndabona ukuba le yingxaki, ke Ndiqulunqe eyam inkqubo ndisebenzisa le mibuzo mithandathu . Ukuba ndingaphendula ngokunyanisekileyo ewe kubo bonke abathandathu, loo nto iye yahlala. Ukuba ndingaphendula ngo-ewe kwisithathu okanye nangaphezulu, ingene kwibhokisi ephantsi kwengqwalaselo. Ukuba andinakukwazi ukuqokelela ubuncinci abathathu, bekufanele ukuba kuhambe.
- Ngaba ndiyayidinga?
- Ngaba ndiyisebenzisile kutshanje?
- Ngaba ineenjongo ezingaphezulu kwesinye?
- Ngaba ndikulungele ukuncama into enye ukuze ndingenise oku?
- Ngaba ndinayo indawo yayo?
- Ngaba yinto endinokuphila ngaphandle kwayo?
Ukumangaliswa: Izinto ezininzi azenzanga ukusika.
Kodwa omnye ummangaliso: Enye into ezo ngcali zingakuxeleliyo kukuba ungathengisa ezinye zezinto ozithandayo ngezinye iindlela ezifanelekileyo. Ndikhubekile kuloo nto xa ndifumanisa ukuba ndiyakwazi ukugcina itafile yam yokutya ukuba ndiyisebenzise njengendawo yokusebenza. Ngoku ayisiyiyo kuphela isidlo sangokuhlwa kuyo, kodwa ndiyasebenza kuyo kwaye ndiyisebenzisa njengekhawuntari eyongezelelweyo xa ndibhaka isonka.
Ndikhe ndabona abantu besebenzisa ifanitshala emininzi. Ibhedi yaseMurphy yinto enkulu; inokuba yidesika okanye iishelfu xa ukhuko lulele. Ukuvumelana ligama lomdlalo kwaye akukho phantse kubuhlungu njengoko kuvakala. Ndiyithande kakhulu inyani yokuba ndiye kuthenga ezo zinto zininzi zisetyenziselwa izinto ezininzi. Yayisisizathu esilungileyo kunyango lokuthengisa oluthengise ixesha lam elinzima.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Ellie Arciaga Lillstrom)
3. Kwafuneka ndithathe isigqibo sokuba andikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwenyani.
Ndiyathandeka kwaye ndithanda ukuxhoma kwiifoto ezindala kunye neziqwenga zelifa lendlu. Ndandinemifanekiso — Kulungile, ininzi yemifanekiso. Ndikwinkqubo yokuzivavanya kwaye ndiza kuzifaka kwiCD zabantwana bam. Ndiza kunika iikopi ezilukhuni kwintombi yam (ukuba ukuba angaze athothe angabona ukuba mabenze ntoni ngazo). Ingxaki isonjululwe.
Ndabona ukuba ndihlala ndimnyama kakhulu kwaye ndimhlophe, konke okanye akukho nto, ngoko ke kufuneka ndifunde ukuba ukunciphisa abasebenzi akufuneki kuthetha ukuyeka yonke into. Kuthetha nje ukubeka phambili kunye nokuhla. Ndifumanise ukuba eneneni ndikwazi ukonwabela ngakumbi ngakumbi ezo zinto ndizigcinileyo kuba ndikhunjuzwe ngendlela ezizodwa kwaye ezixabiseke ngayo.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Adrienne Breaux)
4. Ndifumanise ukuba ukugcinwa nkqo nokusetyenziswa kwendawo echithiweyo kusindisa ubomi.
Xa ndandijonga apho ndibeka khona izinto zam, ndafumanisa ukuba ndijonge ngaphandle kwaye ndingayinaki indawo eninzi eyayiphezulu. Indawo encinci ithetha ukuba kuncinci kakhulu umphezulu indawo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kuncinci kakhulu yokugcina indawo. Ukuma nkqo kuyinto entle, emangalisayo. Ndiqale ukukhangela i-supermodel yokugcina: inde, ibhityile, kwaye uninzi lwesimo sengqondo. Ndineziqwenga ezimbalwa ze-sassy (ezinje Iishelufa zeencwadi ezibukhali kwaye oku inqaba esebenzayo ). Nam ndiyifumene lonto Izikhongozeli ezinokubambeka Sebenza kakuhle ngendlela engathethekiyo ukupakisha ukutya kwipryry nakwifriji. Yayikukuqhushumba kokuyila kunye nokuqala ukujonga indawo nganye engenanto njengethuba lokuzenzela indawo yokuhlala encinci kunye nezisombululo zokugcina ezizodwa kum.
Gcina Ncamathisela Bona eminye imifanekiso (Ityala lemifanekiso: Ellie Arciaga Lillstrom)
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