UALICE, UMAMAZALA WAM AKAYEKI UKUNDINIKA IZIPHO (ENDINGENALO IGUMBI LAM)

Ukutshata kwethu besonganyelwe zizipho ezininzi. Uyacinga, kodwa akusoloko kusebenza. Sinefulethi yeenyawo ezingama-600 kwaye ke sigqibe ekubeni sithathe izinto ezininzi. Sifuna ukuqiniseka ukuba sixhomekeke kuphela kwinto ebangela uvuyo okanye iya kuba luncedo ngokwaneleyo ukugcina iintsuku ezingama-365 zonyaka.
Kodwa umkhwekazi wam uqhubeka esinika izipho zekhitshi zekhitshi. Usebenzisa isaphulelo somqeshwa wakhe kwaye usiphathela izinto zasekhitshini ezintsha rhoqo ngenyanga. Zininzi izinto okwangoku, inokugcwalisa ikhabhinethi yayo. Umyeni wam uzame ukuxelela umama wakhe ukuba asinamdla kuzo zonke ezi zinto kwaye zahamba kakubi. Iimvakalelo zakhe zazibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye wayebanda kuye okwexeshana. Umyeni wam wandicacisela ukuba ukunika izipho lulwimi lwakhe lothando kwaye yindlela yakhe yokuzibandakanya nathi kwaye simbonise uthando. Ngelixa ndiyibulela kakhulu imvakalelo kwaye apho intliziyo yakhe ikho ngezi zipho, ndiyazi ukuba uchitha amakhulu eedola kwizinto esingenako ukuzigcina ngokwasemzimbeni. Ndizamile ukungathembeki ngakumbi ngokumnqanda xa ekhankanya into ngokuthi, Oo ingathi yinto ecocekileyo, kodwa sipakishwe sigcwele kule ndawo ndicinga ukuba kuya kufuneka sidlule kuyo.
Ndenza konke okusemandleni am kodwa andicingi ukuba iyasika! Andifuni ukulimaza iimvakalelo zakhe, ngakumbi njengelungu elitsha losapho. Ngaba unayo nayiphi na ingcebiso kum yokujongana nale meko ithambileyo?
Enkosi! Ngaphezulu kweZipho

OG othandekayo,

Eyona nto ibalaseleyo kum kwileta yakho kuxa wawusithi wena kunye nomamazala wakho niqale nathandana ngothando ekwabelwana ngalo lokupheka kunye nokupheka izixhobo. Andiqondi ukuba yinto eyenzekileyo ukuba abambe ngokuqinileyo olo nxibelelwano nawe. Ndiyicinga ukuba kunzima kakhulu kumama xa unyana wakhe etshata - uye wambeka endaweni yowesifazane ebomini bonyana wakhe. Ke ndiyasiqonda isibongozo sakhe sokukugcina wena nonyana wakhe nisondele kakhulu, nokuba uza kuhamba ngendlela engeyiyo.

Kuba nobabini nizamile iindlela zobuchule zokumxelela ukuba ezi zipho azidingi kuphela, kodwa azamkelekanga, ngaphandle kwempumelelo, singacinga ukuba akazukuthabatha thsuphe. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokuzama iqhinga elitsha ngokupheleleyo:

Umamazala wakho uthanda kakhulu izixhobo zokupheka, kuyacaca. Kodwa kananjalo, ndicinga ukuba mhlawumbi uyayibona le nto ayithandayo njengonxibelelwano oluhle kuwe (enyanisweni, ngekhe ayiqonde le nto). Mhlawumbi nobabini (okanye abathathu ukuba umyeni wakho ufuna ukujoyina) unokufumana into entsha oyithandayo kunye. Enye engabandakanyi izinto zomzimba. Mhlawumbi unokuba yindawo yokutya kwaye uqale ukuzama zonke iivenkile ezilungileyo kwindawo yakho (angabhatala ukuba uyafuna!). Mhlawumbi unokujonga ezinye iimyuziyam kunye neegalari zobugcisa kwaye uqalise ukuxabisa ubugcisa ngakumbi. Mhlawumbi ungangena ekuhambeni intaba kwaye uphonononge iihambo ezithile zosuku.

Inqaku yile: Ufuna indlela yokunxibelelana nawe kwaye ukuba umnike enye indlela, ngequbuliso unokuziva engaphantsi kwesidingo sokuthenga ingqalelo yakho ngezipho.

Ndiyathemba ukuba iyanceda! Umnqweno omhle.

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