UALICE, NDINGAQHUBANA NJANI NOMNTU ENDIHLALA NAYE KUNYE NEENGXOXO ZESITHANDWA SAM?

Alice othandekayo,

Umntu endandihlala naye egumbini lam uhlala nomfana athandana naye, nto leyo ebiyiminyaka emibini enesiqingatha kungekho ngxaki yokwenyani. Unobuhlobo kakhulu, unembeko, kwaye uluncedo, kwaye ngokusisiseko sihlala naye kwigumbi lesithathu kwaye alikho semthethweni. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha bangena kwimilo emibini, kwaye oku kuhlala kuphela ngokukhwaza kwakhe phezulu emiphungeni kuye ubuncinci imizuzu eyi-10 ngexesha.
Iyafika idlule kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ezi mpikiswano zinokuhlala iiveki kwaye akukho ndawo yokubaleka kukungxola nokukhala. Ndiyayiva phezulu phezulu ngengxolo yokucima ii-headphone. Nangona engangxoli, ndisakhathazeka kakhulu xa kusenzeka oku, ndikhulele kwikhaya apho ukukhwaza nokuthuka kwakungaqhelekanga.
Inxalenye yengxaki kukuba uhamba ngexesha elingazinzanga ngokweemvakalelo ebomini bakhe, ubukhulu becala ngenxa yokutshintsha kwamayeza. Ndifuna ukukuqonda oku, kodwa ndifuna ukuba noxolo ekhaya. Ndithetha njani naye ngalento ndingamenzi azive kakubi ngemeko yakhe?
Ozithobileyo,

Indlebe ibuhlungu

Molo weNdlebe,

Kuvakala ngathi awunyamezelanga nje kuphela, kodwa ulonwabele ukuba nesoka lomntu ohlala naye kwigumbi lesithathu kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo kwaye ndikhululekile ukuba imeko iyasebenza ngokubanzi. Kodwa into engasebenziyo kwaye awunyanzelekanga ukuba uyinyamezele kukuvezwa kukukhwaza umntu ohlala naye.

Kufuneka uthethe naye, uzise imfesane kukungonwabi kwangoku ngokweemvakalelo, uchaze ukuba ukudubuleka kwakhe kunefuthe kuwe: ukuba bakwenza uxinzelelo kwaye bakwenza uzive ungonwabanga ekhayeni lakho. Uvakala njengomntu ongakhathaliyo, kodwa icala eliphantsi kolu phawu lobuntu kukuba ukuvuma kwakho kunye nokuthula kungathatyathwa njengokuvuma okanye kwanokwaneliseka yimeko ekhoyo. Nokuba umntu ohlala naye akatshintshi isimilo sakhe emva kwentetho yakho, ubuncinci uthethile.

Uthando,
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